Thursday, 22 October 2015

0 Facing A Foe

بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم

Before facing or dealing with a foe, the most important thing is to make sure that the foe is a real foe, not a misinterpreted one. A foe must be comprehensively defined as to not discriminate anyone. The worst definition of a foe is anyone who is different from us in any means. Like the famous ex-American president George W Bush said whoever is not with me is against me. This kind of notion will just make one having no friends.

After finely determining a foe, the point of argument should be ensured. Both parties need to understand the same thing so as to not fighting for different reasons. It is very common to have an argument resulted from different understanding of a particular issue. Like a group of men describing a box seen from different angles. Each sees it from different sides and keeps saying he is right. The truth is everybody is correct in what they see.

Then to see if the point of argument can be solved or be ignored. Some disputes are not worth to be involved. It just drags us to a lifelong discussion that eventually never ends. Why bother ourselves getting involve in those arguments. The best to solve it is by ignore it.

Finally is to face a foe wisely if it is the only choice available. Wisely as in using correct words, evidences and arguments at the right time. Sometimes one party is better and in the right side but loses because of its lack of communication or dialogue skills. The lack of those skills will unwillingly malign the one who is in the right side and consequently gives an opportunity to the unjust side to appear as it is right. This creates doubtness in community. It is significantly important to not just be in the right side but also to master the skills to deliver in a way people can accept.

Making foes is the last choice. Everyone is our friends until proven otherwise.



Wednesday, 7 October 2015

0 Communication

بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم

It is the time to change our communication skill to a better one. As everyday we are inevitably going to face people and need to be comunicated with each other physically or verbally, communication is always needed to be improved.

The basic general concept for me is to speak good or remain silent just like what the prophet has mentioned. This is the simplest way of improving communication. For example, it is just unnecessary to give an unpleasant comment early in the morning on a person who wears new shirt. His whole day may be affected and he may loose his positive mood. The easier, better way is to just say nothing. Or to sarcastically pointing in public, someone's inability to do things that he or she should have get used of like speaking in Arabic after 5 years staying in Egypt. Those are just unnecessary things without significant reasons to be mentioned.

As words of wisdom sounds, words are sharper than swords. It really is. By just changing some words in our conversations, a big change could happen, or by removing some. A good communication is the one gives positive mood to someone. When doing dakwah, we are taught to deliver good news before threats. So does in any conversation. We should try to avoid demeaning words or expressions.

Build positive wave in the community so as to make everboody feels alive and like having hope after whatever silly or bad things happened to them back then. Simple, isn't it? 

The very first words of Rasulullah after the establisment of city of Madinah were really making everbody feeling alive;

أفشوا السلام وأطعموا الطعام وصلوا الأرحام وصلوا الليل والناس نيام تدخل الجنة بالسلام

Spread salam, feed the hungry, be in touch with your kin,and pray while people are sleep at night, you shall enter paradise peacefully.

Do not raise voice unnecessarily, choose wise words, and discuss good topics. If none of these exist, seriously, say nothing is the best word.



Friday, 2 October 2015

2 Extreme Never Lasts

بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم

In doing anything, being moderate is always the best choice available. In medicine, everything has its normal range value. Respiratory rate should be between 12 to 20 per minute to be considered normal. Less than that is called hypopnea, on the other hand hyperpnea if exceeds 20. So does body temperature, blood pressure and pulse. What doctors need to do is to memorize the normal range and to examine patients if their body systems exceed the normal range.

However, extremes are present in any community or groups. The only reason is they have no idea as regard the normal moderate behavior they should practice. So instead, they go being extreme. Sometimes, these people are just blindly following their leaders. It is not their fault, some people are born to just be followers.

To be moderate, one should know what is normal and what is not or extreme. How can we say a particular action is extreme or normal if we do not know the opposite? In medical school, medical students need to spend at least two years learning normal human anatomy and physiology. Then the rest of 3 to 4 years learning the opposite. Then they will be able to graduate being competent, safe, moderate doctors.

Manner is one of the main reason, might be the objective of all practices in Islam, our prophet being sent to this world. Without manners, one never has the right to be called religious. Being just is a good manner, so does being moderate.

Having a glimpse on verse 143 from surah Al-Baqarah certainly makes us realize the importance of being in the middle of two extremes. 

Living with blood pressure 180/100 (normal is 120/80) is extremely risky. In any second, one can get hemorrhage, stroke, or even die of heart attack. The person will never last.



 

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