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Of Marriage

بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم

From the first time I had the intention to end my single life, few years back, until this day, my view on marriage is always evolving. Being a teenager at the age of early 20s, what drived me was merely a blank desire without clear aim. I felt getting married at young age was cool, reflecting maturity of a guy without realising how immature I was at that time.

In the middle of the way, there was always something preventing me from going further. If it was not from my side, it was from the other. I kept trying and finding solutions after solutions. I met many persons. From friends, ustaz to even a syariah lawyer to get some opinions. 

But then, light was still not on my side as if He wanted to tell me that it was not the right time. Now I realise that it really was not. What I did was just to get it done, not to get it done right. As marriage is not simply saying the word 'I accept'. It is too difficult to think about. To be responsible of a woman who has been finely treated by her family for years.

How could someone be responsible of other if he could barely carry his own responsibilities?

How many couples out there who immaturely get married and raise children while they are lacking of finance, knowledge and responsibility?

Till the day come, there are plenty of things need to be worked on. I wish I had enough time to do so.



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